Have Deliciously Dirty Sex
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Has your sex life become a boring routine? Stuck in a routine of familiar sounds and positions? When moving sex from the bedroom to the living room fails to pack the punch you're looking for, it's time to face your true desires. Dirty sex is a beautiful thing.
SO WHY AREN'T YOU DIRTY YET? Think about it. You wouldn't be reading this if the idea of kinky sex didn't turn you on. There's something (or many things) you have always secretly wanted to, but something has held you back from experimenting. What is it? For most of us, the answer is 'fear'. We are too scared to break codes of conduct. We are afraid of rejection from our partner. We fear religious and social consequences if our longings escape the safety of our thoughts. Many of us fear ourselves and what we might find lurking in the shadows of our unclean mind. In our efforts to remain socially, morally and psychologically safe, we deny ourselves the divine gift of sexual gratification. To live with this massive sacrifice, we lie to ourselves. We subscribe to myths that tell us married sex just gets boring and that most women don't like sex. Men and women even convince themselves they are sexually 'broken'. Most are, but we can be fixed. Sexual indifference is not a physical impairment. It's a social one. It infects us when we fail to examine the nature and origins of our inhibitions. As children, we accept the code of conduct and morality that surrounds us. As adolescents, the we learn the rules of acceptable adult behavior. As young adults, we begin the process of examining the information we have collected. While we are comfortable questioning most of the values we have been taught, many of us never challenge the nature of our sexual ethics. To have great, dirty sex, we must ask ourselves why we AREN'T having great, dirty sex. What idea or fear is holding us back? Where did that idea or fear come from? Is it valid? If you find, as many of us do, that your attitude towards sex is not your own, it's time to rethink things. Think about your true sexual longings. What would happen if you experimented with fulfilling those desires. Would anyone be harmed? Do the acts violate your moral code, or the moral code you have been given by others? What would the actual impact on your life be? Depending on the nature of your lust, the results could be disastrous. Or, you could open the door to a world of sexual satisfaction that would brighten your outlook on life in general.
PREPARE If you have decided you want to try dirty sex, take some time to prepare. You will want to minimize the risks involved to ensure a pleasant experience. Is your current partner emotionally and physically 'safe' to experiment with? If the answer is no, you should find a 'safe' partner before play with your passions. Look for someone with an open mind and closed lips. you will want a partner who is interested in playing dirty. You will want a partner who is sensitive, will proceed slowly, and listen to your feedback. You will want someone who can stop when you say STOP! As with all sex, you will want a partner who will not put you at risk for disease AND you will want to practice safe sex. Will you need tools? For instance, if you have always secretly wanted to try anal sex, you will need some supplies before you start. Lubricant, adult toys, and a safeword are a good place to start.
BE FREE When you are finally ready for dirty sex, get dirty. Don't worry about the social, moral, personal implications of dirty sex WHILE having dirty sex. These are issues you should have resolved in Step 1. If they have been resolved, free yourself to focus on the pleasure of dirty sex. Enjoy the physical sensations, the adventure, the fresh approach. If you have not settled these ethical, moral, emotional concerns, you should revisit step 1 before engaging in dirty sex.
SO WHY AREN'T YOU DIRTY YET? Think about it. You wouldn't be reading this if the idea of kinky sex didn't turn you on. There's something (or many things) you have always secretly wanted to, but something has held you back from experimenting. What is it? For most of us, the answer is 'fear'. We are too scared to break codes of conduct. We are afraid of rejection from our partner. We fear religious and social consequences if our longings escape the safety of our thoughts. Many of us fear ourselves and what we might find lurking in the shadows of our unclean mind. In our efforts to remain socially, morally and psychologically safe, we deny ourselves the divine gift of sexual gratification. To live with this massive sacrifice, we lie to ourselves. We subscribe to myths that tell us married sex just gets boring and that most women don't like sex. Men and women even convince themselves they are sexually 'broken'. Most are, but we can be fixed. Sexual indifference is not a physical impairment. It's a social one. It infects us when we fail to examine the nature and origins of our inhibitions. As children, we accept the code of conduct and morality that surrounds us. As adolescents, the we learn the rules of acceptable adult behavior. As young adults, we begin the process of examining the information we have collected. While we are comfortable questioning most of the values we have been taught, many of us never challenge the nature of our sexual ethics. To have great, dirty sex, we must ask ourselves why we AREN'T having great, dirty sex. What idea or fear is holding us back? Where did that idea or fear come from? Is it valid? If you find, as many of us do, that your attitude towards sex is not your own, it's time to rethink things. Think about your true sexual longings. What would happen if you experimented with fulfilling those desires. Would anyone be harmed? Do the acts violate your moral code, or the moral code you have been given by others? What would the actual impact on your life be? Depending on the nature of your lust, the results could be disastrous. Or, you could open the door to a world of sexual satisfaction that would brighten your outlook on life in general.
Tips & Warnings
- Don't assume your partner will frown on the idea of dirty sex. Your current partner may have been afraid to approach the subject with you.
- ALWAYS make peace with yourself before engaging in dirty sex. Uncertainty can easily become regret, valid or not.
- ALWAYS, always, always practice safe sex.
- NEVER violate the law or other people in your pursuit of sexual gratification.
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